Writing

Out of nothing, something.

When Your Family Doesn’t Respect Boundaries

Yes, she’s my mother but that’s no longer an excuse. I have a ‘boundaried’ relationship with my mother. My mother is a stunningly...

She Who Destroys The Light

Persephone’s Story Don’t believe the bullshit myth they tell you about me. The ancient version of my story is much closer to the truth....

Valentine’s Day is Bullshit

Love’s Where It’s At A couple of years ago I had the most epic and romantic Valentine’s Day I’d ever had in my life. I was alone in Death...

Nine

If you don’t move or make a sound, nothing bad will happen to you You are nine years old, and you sit there because you’re lonely and no...

The Case For Clitoral Stroking

And why it matters now more than ever For several years, I was involved with the clit stroking cult, OneTaste, where I practiced...

But Do You Like Them?

My ex-husband and I used to say ”I love you but I don’t like you right now.” We said that a lot. If I could encapsulate the failure of...

Don’t Be Afraid To Scare People

Last night someone said to me, “oh! You scare people because you’re YOU.” Ken and I laughed out loud. Um, yeah. I can come across as...

You Are Not Difficult

Advocating for yourself is not ever you being difficult. You are not a pain in the ass. Please stop thinking of yourself like that. You...

Self-Love Is Not the Answer

I don’t believe self-love is the answer. Not because I don’t believe in love, but because for some of us, we never experienced what it...

It’s OK To Not Be Ok

I am not someone who can skip over feelings. I never have been and I never will be. For many years I tried. I mean I really, really,...

Take a Stand!

I’ve had several conversations recently where people (women!) have said they didn’t want to take sides regarding what’s happening in the...

Dear White Women & White Women of Wellness

You have power. Please use it. I am a person of color that passes for white, and I work in the wellness industry. As a result, I end up...